I wanted to tell you, at the first thing, that I don’t Forget you: I don’t write a lot now!!! A lot of stress in my spirit what block anything else 😜
Since some days I have “the mood in my socks » as we say in French, I didn’t understand the reason (Beyond the hormones… it’s the BAD week of the month 😋). Impossible to understand, to put words on this mood… just a bad mood, just want to put me in my bubble (an article on it soon by the Way), no motivation, stress without knowing the reason and yesterday the ultimate thing: a panic attack at my wake up…. the day started well!😠
And speaking with my husband help me to found the reason for this bad mood: THE CULTURAL SHOCK !!
In fact, we feel lost between the two countries: we have left our national country, our roots, some material things what seem strangers to us now (strange feeling)… but at the same time we aren’t yet accustomed in our new country (we don’t yet know all the social skills, habits, culture, language, ….). To reflect this feeling, we would say: « have our ass between 2 chairs”
So we are disoriented, lost! Which to me and to another extent, to my husband, gives a lot of stress. Indeed, both of us need landmarks, routines, to feel reassured and well!!! Even if we already have physical landmarks (the house, the stores, ….) we aren’t yet totally at ease so it brings fatigue, stress … because we ask ourselves a lot (too many) questions.(we want to do things well, to be integrated, don’t hurt people ….).
We don’t express it in the same way but it is there in our mind. Everyone experiences their shock in a different way and obviously wait and not close to other people, are the only thing to do. I will test again the method I tried for a medical appointment: the EFT (I will write the article on it, in not a long time … promised😍).
Since my panic attack and our exchange, I feel a little better: it feels good to see that we aren’t alone to live it in the same way… it reassures!
And I gradually put in my head that I must take the time to be thoroughly at ease here, in this welcoming country while keeping my roots.
What is not easy for me who am a very impatient person … I want to do everything very quickly but sometimes the only thing to do is to wait upon time!!!
For my children, it’s different because they have lived in France for a less time than us 😜and here They have their landmarks: home, school, us …. even if some things are still learning, the essential is ok. But we stay attentive anyway😉 and we talk a lot with them.
Here for my daughter, we are looking for a therapist who speaks French to continue his follow-up.
What boost again me is also to see my children much happier here! My son is growing day by day and being integrated as he is!!(for example be invited to a birthday party!!!). My daughter is really happy here, and made a friend of her age… We don’t regret our choice! I have already met wonderful Friends who support me and with whom I spend very good times, my friends from France support me and are there for me too!!! THANKS TO ALL OF THEM AND TO ALL OF YOU😍😍. Life is very cool here; we discover a lot of things even if some moments are a little difficult …. but it will come soon!!!!
We Believe it: knowing what happening to me helps me already !!!
And to write it even more😉
Thank you so much for reading me too!!! Your support is precious to me.
And you, did you experience this kind of change? This kind of shock?
Feel free to share your experiences.
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